What a Young Husband Ought to Know

The new relation full of new meaning.--Lifted into a higher realm.--Love transforms the nature.--Marriage the estate of man's highest happiness.--The awakening of reproductive life in field and forest.--These powers may be held in abeyance.--They also have their proper exercise.--Reason to rule over passion.--The need of a strong emotional nature in men and in women.--Sexual nature should not be immolated.--Vice and lust cannot bring happiness.--The sensual usurper must be deposed and love enthroned.--This our effort and our justification, 25

CHAPTER II.

DIFFERENCES OF SEX.

Each sex superior in its sphere.--Two parts of a complete unit.--Differences between men and women.--Physically.--Intellectually.--These differences complemental.--The more nervous sensibilities of woman.--The earliest manifestation of sex characteristics.--All life from an egg.--The human egg, size, etc.--The ovum always passive.--The spermatozoAśn, or sperm, always active.--Their remarkable vitality.--The quicker pulse of male children at birth.--Greater activity of boys.--While more male children are born, a larger per cent. die in infancy.--Women endure more and live longer.--Woman's more passive nature recognized by the civil law, 31

CHAPTER III.

DIFFERENCES OF SEX.

(Continued.)

Women keep life stable.--Men keep it from stagnation.--Influence of each a corrective upon the other.--The law of mental and physical resemblance of elderly married persons.--Why woman possesses the stronger moral nature.--How husband and children are benefited.--The savage tribes manifest the dominant male characteristics.--Civilized nations take upon them the best characteristics of the feminine type.--The best characteristics of each sex finds modified expression in the other.--The beneficial effects which God secures by the union of an active with a passive sexual nature in marriage.--The well-being of both bettered.--Mutual intelligence begets harmony, while ignorance produces discord and misery.--The reproductive organs differentiated in man and in woman.--The same organs modified, differently placed, and assigned a different office, 41

CHAPTER IV.

ESSENTIALS IN HUSBAND AND HOME.

Requisites in a good husband.--Woman's love of home and its adornments.--Keeping up the courtship.--The home, the club, and the loafing-place.--An instance in point.--The right of the wife to share the husband's recreations, diversions and pleasures.--The wife's greater need of relaxation and diversion.--Dr. Farrar's picture of a considerate husband.--Woman's love of being wooed.--Not marriage, but the parties to it, often a failure.--Degraded views concerning women often held.--Domineering wives and husbands.--The Zuni Indians.--The Scriptural teaching.--Industry essential to happiness in the home.--The claims of religion to be recognized.--The conditions of the wicked and godly contrasted.--The promise of the life that now is, as well as that which is to come, 53

CHAPTER V.

THE PHYSICAL COST OF PROCREATION.

Boxing the compass, or proving the principles.--Prevalent ignorance on subjects relating to sex.--Lessons taught by the reproduction of vegetable life.--The green scum of the pond.--Reproduction costs life.--Death as the result of reproduction among fishes.--Reproduction among insects.--The drone and the queen bee.--With the birds, death as the result of reproduction disappears.--With animals, the ovum and sperm are reduced to microscopic proportions.--The inclination to beget, a premonition of decay and death.--Procreation costs vital force.--Reproductive inclination periodic among the lower animals.--More continuous in man.--Benefits of restraint.--Strict continence often an imperative duty.--Instances named, 74

CHAPTER VI.

MARITAL MODERATION.

Twofold nature of love.--Rooted in the physical, flowers in the spiritual.--Lust often miscalled love.--Three theories concerning the marital relation.--Unrestrained indulgence for men.--For procreation only.--As an expression of affection and for mutual endearment.--The perpetuity of the race and the highest good of the individual consistent.--What is marital moderation?--Difficulty in defining.--The reproductive sense, like hunger, to be brought under the dominion of intelligence and refinement.--The worm and the wild animals contrasted with man in the satisfying of hunger.--Jeremy Taylor's rule.--Strong words from Mrs. E. B. Duffey.--Marital moderation vs. conjugal debauchery.--Limits set by some physicians.--No one rule equally applicable in all cases.--Physical conditions of both husband and wife to be considered.--Degrading effects of sexual excess.--The wishes of the wife always to be respected.--Stimulating food, books, pictures, etc.--Importance of single beds and separate apartments.--Opinions of others quoted.--Physical culture as a corrective.--Manly mastery worth all it costs.--The struggle not endless, 85